To Alison McKee, It is very dangerous to say "Gee, something is not part of my own social reality, therefore it doesn't exist." Let's review some facts: 1) Violence against female spouses is a terrible problem, as noted by the fact that over 90% of all violence reports to the police come from women. 2) A growing body of literature on family violence indicates that women are more likely than men to be initiators of the cycle of violence (that is, they are the first ones to start hitting). 3) Violence by men toward women causes more damage to women than the reverse, but ... 4) Women are more likely to use more extreme violence against men; thus, 52% of all spousal murder victims are male. Domestic violence is not just a male problem. It is a problem for both males and females. To suggest that presenting *these* facts is dangerous misses the point. Rod Carveth University of Bridgeport